https://onejaeatatime.com/categories/trans-journey/ Recent content in Trans Journey on One Jae At A Time Hugo -- gohugo.io en Tue, 27 May 2025 08:13:09 -0400 https://onejaeatatime.com/2025/05/27/when-should-i-respond.html Tue, 27 May 2025 08:13:09 -0400 https://onejaeatatime.com/2025/05/27/when-should-i-respond.html When should you respond to being misgendered? It’s a hard question because it’s different each person. There are times, especially when working in customer service, where I simply let it happen. I have been working on my appearance to feminize myself, but there are days I dress very masculine. This isn’t the only thing that affects me. I am also a 6' 4" person which makes people assume I’m a man. https://onejaeatatime.com/2024/09/23/reassurance.html Mon, 23 Sep 2024 11:18:55 -0400 https://onejaeatatime.com/2024/09/23/reassurance.html I’ve got a secret, I have not been loving myself. I have not been giving Jae the true love she needs. I’ve been masking it with others’ reassurance. People’s opinions of me have been what I’ve been living on. This is dangerous because if someone rejects me, if someone says something willingly or ignorantly, it can hurt me. How can I let my fiance and family love me if I don’t love myself? https://onejaeatatime.com/2023/07/13/comparison-thief-of.html Thu, 13 Jul 2023 08:19:44 -0400 https://onejaeatatime.com/2023/07/13/comparison-thief-of.html Comparison is such a thief of joy. It can be a valuable tool, but it can also rob you of your own self worth and #MentalHealth. My relationships (family, friends and romantic) will not be like other people. My job won’t be like others. My hobbies won’t be like others. Who I am and how my brain operates is not like others. The more I realise that (this is to me) the more I begin to find my self worth and validate myself. https://onejaeatatime.com/2023/07/12/who-is-that.html Wed, 12 Jul 2023 10:49:44 -0400 https://onejaeatatime.com/2023/07/12/who-is-that.html I just had a hair appointment (it’s getting so long!). As I’m walking into my flat, I see my reflection in the glass on my screen door. I stop and stare for a few and remark “Who is that girl I see?”. I have dreamed all my life of looking like this and I am finally seeing the person I dreamed of. 😭 https://onejaeatatime.com/2023/05/17/are-you-sure.html Wed, 17 May 2023 07:43:18 -0400 https://onejaeatatime.com/2023/05/17/are-you-sure.html It’s one year today that I began the process of having an orchiectomy. It is the first surgery I went through for my gender-affirming care. I completed it in November and am now just paying off massive medical debt over it One of the things that kept hurting was the amount of people who asked me if I was sure at doing my orchiectomy. The people, my own mom included, who said I was being impulsive at having this surgery. https://onejaeatatime.com/2023/05/16/asking-for-help.html Tue, 16 May 2023 22:11:37 -0400 https://onejaeatatime.com/2023/05/16/asking-for-help.html I’ve been putting off doing this, but I have no choice except to ask for help regarding my medical debt and other debt I’ve accrued because of my transition. I’ve had gender affirming surgery as well as having to move out of my house and this has meant I’ve accrued a fair bit of debt. I have setup a GoFundMe that I will use the funds to pay off my debt that I’ve accrued. https://onejaeatatime.com/2023/05/03/my-voice.html Wed, 03 May 2023 19:50:59 -0400 https://onejaeatatime.com/2023/05/03/my-voice.html I have struggled with my voice a lot in my #trans journey. Here are some of my thoughts on my voice at this time in my life. Transcript https://onejaeatatime.com/2023/04/24/a-trans-lament.html Mon, 24 Apr 2023 21:39:03 -0400 https://onejaeatatime.com/2023/04/24/a-trans-lament.html You think I’m a monster, You think you know my life, You make policies to restrict people like me, You try to remove us from your world. Maybe the real monster is you. Maybe you will realise the creativity you’ve lost in your world. Maybe you will one day realise how much you needed us. We just want to exist, We just want to be us. I didn’t choose my life, My life chose me. https://onejaeatatime.com/2022/11/18/why-an-orchiectomy.html Fri, 18 Nov 2022 09:35:36 -0400 https://onejaeatatime.com/2022/11/18/why-an-orchiectomy.html I am now almost two weeks out from my orchiectomy as part of my trans affirming healthcare. I’ve had many people asking me why I went ahead with my surgery. Quite a few people were trying to convince me to not to do it. Imploring me that I will regret it. Let me try and answer some of this. My testicles have always been a rather, let’s just say, unpleasant part of my body. https://onejaeatatime.com/2021/12/19/u-r-a.html Sun, 19 Dec 2021 12:50:01 -0400 https://onejaeatatime.com/2021/12/19/u-r-a.html U R A Man — The Common Rebuttal of my haters I constantly get told that I am a man. That I will never be a woman. That because of my Adam’s Apple or my broad shoulders that I will never be a woman. Even about what’s in my pants — and let me tell you very few have ever seen it. Only those who need to see it either medically or for sex will ever see it.